guides & usage tips

sexual wellness isn’t about doing things “right” — it’s about feeling comfortable, informed, and connected.

this space brings together practical guides and gentle usage tips designed to support safety, confidence, and enjoyment — without pressure, performance, or overwhelm.

tools can support intimacy, but they’re never the focal point. connection, care, and communication always come first.

what you’ll find here

these guides are written to be approachable, body-aware, and easy to return to — whether you’re exploring for the first time or refining what already works for you.

core guides

dildo sizing 101

a calm, practical guide to understanding size, shape, flexibility, and comfort — with a focus on listening to your body rather than chasing expectations.

lubrication basics

why lubrication matters, how to choose the right type, and how it supports comfort, safety, and ease — for all bodies.

pausing, pacing & respect

recognising physical and emotional cues, checking in, and giving yourself or your partner space to slow down — without pressure or expectation.

pacing, comfort & energy levels

how to approach intimacy gently, especially when navigating fatigue, stress, recovery, or limited time together.

caring for each other

communication, aftercare, and checking in — supporting emotional and physical wellbeing before, during, and after intimacy.

tools as support — not the focus

sexual wellness products are not goals to achieve or performances to master. they’re optional tools that can support comfort, exploration, and connection.

enjoyment often comes from slowing down, communicating openly, and allowing curiosity without expectation.

cleaning & care

looking after your body also means looking after the tools you choose to use. simple, consistent care supports hygiene, comfort, and longevity.

clean before and after each use using warm water and a mild, unscented soap or a dedicated toy-safe cleanser
rinse thoroughly to remove residue and allow to air dry fully before storing
avoid harsh chemicals, alcohol, or abrasive materials that can degrade surfaces over time
store in a clean, dry place away from direct sunlight and contact with other materials

if a product includes electronics, follow the manufacturer’s guidance around water exposure and charging safety.

product lifespan & when to replace

well-made sexual wellness products are designed to last — but they aren’t forever. knowing when to let go is part of responsible use.

replace products if you notice cracking, stickiness, changes in texture, or persistent odour
if cleaning no longer restores the surface to a clean, neutral feel, it’s time to retire it
for powered devices, reduced battery performance or inconsistent operation can signal end of life

as a general guide, frequently used items may last 1–3 years with proper care. occasional-use items can last longer, depending on material and storage.

thoughtful disposal

when a product reaches the end of its lifecycle, disposal should be discreet and respectful.

remove batteries or electronic components where possible and dispose of them according to local e-waste guidelines
wrap items before placing them in household waste to maintain privacy
check local recycling rules for packaging materials and chargers

care extends beyond use — it includes how we store, replace, and let go of the things that support us.